gender, genitals, g-d…oh my!!!


What does the church and society do with those of us who do not fit into the binary of male and female in our bodies, identities, and expression?  Often times we are not welcomed onto the “Ark” because our embodiment of gender and sexual expression challenges people to recognize that gender and expression are more complex and fluid then the narrow, dehumanizing notion of binaries.   Within Catholicism, many of us are not even recognized by the Church’s hierarchy or by the wider community of faith; there are no teachings that address transgender or bisexuality; it’s as if we don’t exist and who are as people is not recognized, affirmed, or celebrated.  Given the Church’s track record on sexuality related issues, perhaps silence is best???

If, however, G-d created animals to have diverse gender and sexual expression as Isabella Rossellini demonstrates, wouldn’t this also ripple into humanity? Intersex, Transgender, Asexual, Bisexual—our bodies, our identities, our lives, and our loves are created by G-d.  Like the diversity of animals that Ms. Rossellini portrays, creation is an awesome wonder of complexity…creation is something that is, not was.   G-d creates human beings in G-d’s image, from G-d both male and female are birthed into existence.   What does it mean to be created in the image of a G-d who is both male and female?  Why do church and religious circles narrow and limit G-d to a strict and restrictive perception of maleness and by doing so impose a marginalizing masculinity as the ideal on the faithful?  If human beings are a reflection of G-d, then G-d must be so much more than our traditions, doctrines, statues, and paintings.  All of us, each and everyone one of us…male, female, two-spirited, cisgender, transgender, asexual, bisexual, pansexual, heterosexual, homosexual, queer, questioning, gender-nonconforming…we are all created in the image of a G-d who is somewhere in between and beyond society’s understanding of gender and sexual expression.

May we all remember that our diversity is a beautiful reflection of the diversity that is   G-d and is in G-d.  Our faith-filled challenge is to live out the words of poet and prophet Dr Maya Angelou, “While I know myself as a creation of God, I am also obligated to realize and remember that everyone else and everything else are also God’s creation.”


About delfinwaldemar

i am a native of miami, fl and i am of cuban and salvadoran heritage. i am a social worker and queer theologian who is passionate about engaging the intersections of religion, sexuality, race/ethnicity, and justice—specifically around lgbtq issues. i have a master in divinity as well as a master of social work. as an activist scholar of faith, i am interested in creating spaces where individuals and communities are safe and challenged to explore identity, expression, gender, and orientation in their complexities. i enjoy cooking, eating, laughing, writing, photography, eating more, “queerying” theology, and spending time with family and friends--especially my dearly beloved (while also driving him crazy). my approach to life is rooted in la lucha (the struggle)—lifting up our stories and experiences to inspire creative and authentic conversations and actions that thrive outside boxes transgressing dominant narratives. i hope this space will provide folks who feel isolated or disconnected from communities, especially religious one, an opportunity to wrestle and reconnect and re-member and simply be with the sacred. being raised roman catholic, i have felt marginalized and alone because of who i am within my church community--my queerness bars me from being able to pursue ordination and so this blog will be a space for me to share my journey of faith through homilies, pictures, liturgies, rants, prayer is that this space become a pulpit and sanctuary, a new way of living into our call to radical holiness juntos...a place where you, me, G-d will caminar juntos y juntas en la lucha. Amen.

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